Adult quarrels are naive and foolish. They always like to say words that hurt each other to raise their anger and use a lot of logic to argue irrationally. When you really grow up, you know that [anger] and [disappointment] are two different things. Only when you are angry, you will make a noise, while when you are disappointed, you will only be calm and never mention anything. You saved up every disappointment bit by bit until you finally chose to step into disappointment silently and slowly.
However, many people just don’t understand or even think it’s just a little thing, which is not worth mentioning at all, but they don’t know that “disappointment” accumulates over time, which shows how ashamed adults are when facing emotional differences or disputes between people.
Details determine success or failure, just like emotional distress.
There are many short videos on the Internet, and the other party thinks that “the reason for breaking up” is too ridiculous to warn the public of the real reason. In fact, in real life, there may be many similar examples happening around us, and even happening to you. Maybe the negligence of some small details, or even the repeated tolerance and acceptance of one of the details, may become the real reason.
Paying attention to small details doesn’t mean being sentimental, and being patient again and again doesn’t mean being silly. This is just a dedication and responsibility to a relationship, not a waste of capital. Unfortunately, a lot of people take this for granted. Because of this, it will lead to the sudden break-up, leaving, or drifting away because of some careless little things, so that the other party is puzzled. The problem is that the other party never faced up to his “mistakes”.
Many things don’t need to be reminded when they reach a certain age, and they should also be remembered.
We are all young people in the 21st century. Now that we have entered society, it means that our thoughts and manners should be mature, or are maturing. Only in this way should we be rational and wise, right? The reality is quite the opposite. The older a person is, the more naive his thoughts become, and the more backward he is. It’s just some kind of “subconscious” growth?
The limit of human beings is limited, and it is excusable from the warm reminder in the early stage to the impatience in the later stage. Saying the same thing again is a kind reminder. Repetition will only consume patience, and people who are told will be bored, resulting in estrangement and trouble. What’s more, even some small things can be repeated over and over again, which means that the previous reminders and guarantees are only being handled.
Inadvertent little expectation is the cruellest weapon that leads to “disappointment”.
The so-called “small expectation” means every repeat, that is, every apology and guarantee will never happen again, but people sometimes make mistakes. Because of the “shield” of “apology” and “guarantee”, there will be countless repeats and countless unconcerned. [Apologize] and [Guarantee] just once. Repetition will only make them look cheap, even ignored, because it will only become a “redemption tool” for every mistake.
“The higher the expectation, the higher the disappointment” is probably how it comes from? Therefore, it is good to hold “proper care” for everything, even if it can make you stay in heaven for a while, it may make you fall into hell in the next second!
More and more polite, and more careful.
Many of them will become cautious or more polite in the later period, which does not mean that the relationship gradually becoming clear, but it may be that one of them has learned to give in and be rational. These subtle movements may make each other’s life “subconscious” and make each other feel that this is what they should be. However, they do not know that this relationship may have faded long ago, but it seems nothing on the surface, which does not mean anything in their hearts.
It’s not the same as before. It was strange at first, so both sides looked perfect. It seems calm now because there is nothing to say, only the ending of separation is waiting.
Most of the time, disappointment is because we are tired and used to it, so we choose to keep silent and avoid talking. Because we already know what we are doing, no matter how noisy we are, we will never change anything. At last, we need some dignity. It’s probably the most wonderful interaction between people.
